If 2018 taught me anything it's these two words:
This is why these words are so important:
"as a man thinks within himself so he is"
- Proverbs 23:7
Maybe you already knew these words were hella important. Maybe you didn't. Regardless, I'm gonna talk about it.
As one of my favorite books in the Bible, Proverbs, says "As a man thinks within himself, so he is"
Not a Christian?
"Watch your thoughts they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions.
Watch your actions they become your habits. Watch your habits they become your character.
Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
- Ghandi? Margaret Thatcher? Lao Tzu (Google says they all said it at some point)
"You don't become what you want. You become what you believe"
They're all saying the same thing.
What is that?
Well, whatever you think about yourself, whatever opinion you believe - that is what you are.
We've all got these sort of skewed notions about who we are; the narrative we tell ourselves, which is based on our past experiences. Many of us walk through life building our identity as a culmination of our past experiences- good or bad.
It's just a fact. It's how we function. Which- fine- we need it sometimes so we can like, remember who we are and where we come from, what we like and dislike, etc.
But sometimes we let our past experiences define us. We don't see past events for what they are- an experience. We're so attached to the pain we went through that it becomes a part of us, our thoughts, our actions, our habits, our character, our destiny.
It's pretty limiting isn't it? Our attachment to that pain drives us away from the life path that we were actually intended to go down. We are so much more than the pain that we experience.
I know that I am- I'm 100% positive you are too.
And that's why I am is so dope.
You simply are.
You simply exist.
You are a human being. Not a human doing, not a human trying (ya heard?)
You are you- you are the sky- constant- never faltering. Everything else is the weather.
That feels stable right?
Knowing that everything that happens to you (good or bad), like rain clouds in the sky or some sad kid's birthday balloon that floated away, comes into your life and leaves but you remain.
I am the sky- everything else is the weather.
It's cool to repeat that to yourself because it grounds you in the moment- it stops you from getting swept up in things like stress, fear, and memories- and when you come back to who you are- you're not acting from those thoughts, those memories- which has a rippling affect.
It also attracts things to you- qualities you want to posses. I'm still wrapping my brain around it but- it's true.
If you say "I am strong" strength with find you
"I am patience" patience will find you
"I am well loved" love, in all forms, will come to you.
Be careful though 'cause t's a double edged sword
If you're always subconsciously telling yourself that you're not confident, unlovable, not important, not cut out for the career you chose" - You won't be.
It's that simple.
You are mentally conditioning yourself to believe those things and, as all of these wise people before us have said:
what you believe is what you become
So you might as well say you are all of the things that you want to be.
Pick five things you want to become and say them and I guarantee you your body will feel different once you say them out loud.
And when you're done saying them out loud - think them. Keep thinking them. Meditate on them every day. Believe them like you believe the sun rises every morning. Like you know that the season after winter is spring. You just know it - you never doubt it. So with that same faith, never doubt what you are, who you are and the person that you are becoming :).